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Last week i went on a church convention in Enugu state( by the way, Enugu is a wonderful place) and it was awesome i had fun dwelling in God’s presence and enjoying his plenty blessings.
One of the messages preached was titled Forgiveness it was too inspiring that i decided to blog about it.
Sometimes we let Grudges, hate,and unforgiveness steal our joy and happiness and gets us in bondage.(life is too short for all that)
I’ll share a personal girl /teen story:
Sometime back in high school i had a crush on someone who happened to be one of the finest boys in school. Now as an outspoken young girl, i never hide my feelings. So one day i decided to tell the handsome boy how i felt about him(I know not every girl can do that). Well fortunately for me the feeling was mutual (was it really?), I was really happy that my weird courage wasn’t in vain. After a while of being friends despite knowing how we feel about each other, I found it weird that he didn’t ask me out. But then he would text me almost every night and say sweet things to me, and i would be carried away by all that. A day came and then my best friend visited my school. And in all excitement i introduced her to the possible boyfriend (complicated something sha). I also had them exchange numbers too (maybe i wanted to start a family lol). (Now comes the climax of my story) The boy whom i thought was loyal to me started asking my best friend out, also texting her and even calling at night. He would tell her that i would never find out and it was she he liked. At the same time he continued his routine with me (you know lovey dovey and all). Instead of my best friend to tell on him. She decides to play along so she would have lots of evidence for me, but along the line she finds herself falling for him and it all became real.(fake love turns to real love lol). At this point my best friend was also always there to give advice whenever i had issues with the boy. One way or the other i found out about the hidden relationship so i confronted both of them and they couldn’t defend themselves (they were blaming the devil). I was so angry and felt so betrayed that i made a promise never to have anything to do with either party. This was a problem because i really couldn’t do anything without my best friend (we were like twins). This grudge and hatred went on for months, by then i had gotten rid of everything that had to do with my best friend. I hated her so much(because of a guy) that i threw almost everything i had that would remind me of her, i didn’t want to hear her name or see her i was just bent on revenge ‘i must do it to her back, let her feel my pains too’ (my thoughts).
In the mist of all of these tho, my best friend kept using every opportunity she had to apologize to me but i wasn’t interested i kept telling her i couldn’t forgive her and that she had to get hurt just like i was..Even after getting rid of her stuff i still felt empty without her, when people talked about her in my presence i just walked away and when i see her on my way i just take another route;that’s what happens when you choose not to forgive it keeps you in bondage you feel disturbed though you won’t admit.
Anyways, one day i stumbled upon a picture of both of us when we were just 3 years of age. I burst into tears as memories of a lifetime friendship cloud my mind. I decided to tell my mom about my dilemma (leaving out the boy part tho of course?).
My mom simply said to me”never pass out on what makes you happy”.
Though i was really hurt as i felt betrayed and disappointed by my supposed best friend. Deep down i knew not forgiving her was hurting me more and i was loosing my lively nature and turning into a beast because of revenge. Remember my let it go post(read here if you can’t )?.Sometimes we really just have to let things go and move on with life..Malice, grudges, hate, doesn’t solve anything but Love ❤️ heals everything.
QUOTE:Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behavior, forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying our heart
If it’s not too personal, i would appreciate if you can share stories of times when you just felt revenge was the solution and not forgiving would help the other person feel your pain..
Please share as we have..
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